Pelin's
eyes fell on the wall clock with the broken glass, which she spent days
choosing. Every ticking of the minute and hour hands made her even more nervous.
She
was deep in thought after her husband slammed the door and left. She couldn't understand when and
how they had gotten to this point. Wasn't Selim the man she fell madly in love
with and for whom she took her family? So why was he the person who hurt her the most in life?
Why
couldn't she fix this marriage that was
out of balance? Why was she
stuck in this vicious circle?
***
After
the flamboyant marriage proposal she shared on social media, the
rush started. Pelin took on all the responsibilities of wedding planning due to her fiancée's workload.
However, her excitement overcame her tiredness. She made sure everything was
perfect. There were many details to consider such as her wedding, her wedding
dress, furniture selection, color harmony of the coffee machine with other
small household appliances...
Every
effort she made, every tired day she spent, had already tied her to the house they would live
in. All this tiredness was worth it for the happy home she would build with the
man she loved. She left nothing for Selim to do. She was trying to keep up with
everything. Seeing her running around, his mother
said one day:
-
Daughter, you are not getting married alone, Selim must also fulfill his
responsibilities. It's not right to try to do so much work alone.
-
Mom, Selim works very hard. He has no time to deal with marriage preparations.
Likewise,
Pelin's close friend Meltem thought it was a mistake to undertake the
preparations alone and warned Pelin.
-
My dear Pelin, marriage is for two people. If you get Selim used to being pampered already, you will cause him to
become ungrateful in a short time. I don't think Selim is as excited about this
marriage as you are.
-
This idea of yours is not correct, Meltem. Because Selim's work is very busy,
he cannot be involved in the preparation processes. In fact, he is also very
excited about our marriage.
Days
and months had
passed in this rush.
Finally, the big day of Pelin's dreams has come. They had a lot of fun at their
wedding, which was held in a luxury hotel with the participation of many
relatives and friends.
The
day after the wedding, they immediately went on their honeymoon. After the
honeymoon, which ended with a few jealousy arguments, it was time to return
home. As soon as Selim parked the car, he started complaining.
-
Why was there a need to bring so much stuff! I'm already dying of tiredness,
who will carry them up now!
-
Okay, darling, I'll help you carry it.
As
soon as Selim entered the house, he lay down on the sofa in the living room. He
took the emote control. He took his place in front of the football match he had
been eagerly waiting for, for days. Pelin started
unpacking the suitcases which,
she was carrying with
difficulty.
Only
a year had
passed. Selim started returning from work late and going on business trips for
several days. He was not interested in Pelin and was not there for his wife
even when she needed him.
The
further Selim got away from her, the more Pelin fell on Selim. She made sure to
cook her husband's favorite meals every evening. Selim didn't even come to
dinner most of the time. Even though she
wanted to spend time together, Selim seemed to be avoiding Pelin with various
excuses. Pelin was constantly complaining about something.
Another
evening when voices were raised, Pelin said:
-
What haven’t I done for you? I never tired you. I even did
what you had to do. Are these worth nothing?
- Did I force you to do it?!
-
What happened that you changed so much? Don't you love me anymore?
-
Oh, how worrying you are. This is me! If it suits you, that's it, if not,
there's the door!
Pelin,
who got nervous after what she heard, started to cry loudly. While she was waiting to see
compassion for
her face
of tears, Selim angrily threw the remote control in his hand at the clock on
the wall. The glass of the clock was scattered around. After yelling and
screaming, he slammed the door and left.
So
what happened that Pelin and Selim's marriage came to this point? Despite her
dozens of sacrifices, Pelin thought that she did not deserve them. Really,
where did she go wrong? How would she
recover from this relationship in which she had become so dependent on Selim? She was aware that her marriage was out of balance
and she knew she had to do something to keep it
from ending. But she had no idea how to do it.
At
that exact time, she
got up when she heard the phone call coming
from the bedroom. It was her mother who called, she cried and told her what
happened. After listening to her daughter, her mother, who has been married for
40 years:
- A happy marriage and a
balanced relationship can only be achieved when both people fulfill their
responsibilities.
You shouldn't have done what your husband should have done, you didn't do him
any favors. Selim must learn to take on the responsibilities of a man. You have
to make him pay the price to value you. Nothing breaks suddenly, remember that.
Don't expect the
relationship
to recover quickly. Be patient, girl, as long as
you learn how to behave. It will be a bit difficult, but be determined in your
attitude.
Pelin
felt relieved. Hearing her mother's advice was a relief
to her.
She remembered the
warnings her mother and Meltem had given her during the wedding
preparations. "If only I had listened to them in time, I wouldn't have
experienced this much sadness," she thought to herself. She understood that the reason
why Selim was in this situation
was the result of her own mistakes. She now knew how to act to fix her marriage.
***
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